So let’s get straight to it. 🔊 It’s ok for your friends to have other friends! 🔊 This is such an obvious thing to say and seemingly live by but even in my thirties, I’m still coming across people who don’t like to share their friends. Insecurity, immaturity and selfishness will have you looking like a complete arsehole to other people because you WILL NOT REST. Relentless stupidity every day! 🙄
It’s a sickness that will always be these types of people’s downfall because they don’t know how to be confident in their friendships. They think they own their friends and try to control their interactions with others. It’s very cringe and I get secondhand embarrassment witnessing the meltdowns they tend to have trying to ensure they are the front and centre of their friend’s life. Yikes!
I have been a part of many friendship circles and on the occasion there have been people who have tried to be dominating about their closeness to me or a mutual friend. Personally, I have always found that behaviour to be problematic and a turn off. I don’t need to feel like my other friendships can’t properly thrive because you are a constant shadow behind me or feel like I have to “deal” with your behaviour because our mutual friend isn’t aware or chooses to ignore the many red flags. This isn’t a horror film, sis! Seek a therapist, get a hobby, learn to love yourself and work on wholeheartedly being a great friend instead of a shackle.